Disciplining children is one of the most important jobs we have. Sometimes, parents find themselves in an ongoing struggle with their kids, trying to make them behave themselves. It doesn’t have to be that way — not always. Sometimes games work better than punishment, a kind word is more effective than scolding. Here are a few tips on how to do this:
Discipline through playtime:
There is much that children can learn while playing a simple game. They learn to obey the rules, play nice and wait their turn patiently. Sometimes, they even learn to lose. The children get disciplined, plain and simple. So during playtime with your children, remember that you are in fact disciplining them. Teach your kids to play nice, and you will happily find that you spend a lot less time shouting. Of course, you must let the learning process happen naturally, without the children’s awareness. As far as they are concerned, this is just a game not (God forbid!) being disciplined.
Take note of their good behavior:
This is something that is true children of all ages — it will serve you even when your children are fully grown: always, always, praise your children if they’ve earned it. Express your appreciation and let them know how much you’re proud of them. You were busy all day and your child played quietly and kept out of your way? Let him know that you appreciate it. Eddie set the table for supper without being told? Say: “Thank you, you were very helpful.” Remember to look into their eyes as you praise them. Often, children act out because they’re trying to get attention. If you pay attention while their good, they won’t have to.
Behave yourself:
Bear in mind that your own behavior is always the key. Your kids admire you and imitate you. They will show as much respect toward you as you show toward them. They will be just as courteous to you as you are to them.
Note that discipline can not be achieved by one unique method. It requires a combination of approaches, including, sometimes, punishment. Nevertheless, I think it’s safe to say that you’d rather use a positive approach whenever you can.
I certainly do.
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